I love my wife. I love my kids. I am really missing them. I am finally realizing that to love and be loved is not an automatic thing. Real work is required on both sides.
I am going to do what I can on my side. I don’t need or expect likewise from the other side. It’s easier this way.
I read an excellent book on the subject. It has helped me realize these things. I also know I have to read some more. It’s going to help me even more. But the bottom line, I have to do things for my wife, for my family daily. That’s the only way I’m going to make it better.
People don’t change. I cannot expect my wife to change. She will if she wants to. I cannot change her. I can try to help her, but only if she wants to. There is not point in wasting my time. There is no point of aggrevating her. It just does not work that way. And that’s the bottom line! Period.
So what can I do on a daily basis?
Praise her.
Talk good things about her.
Tell her that I love her.
Buy something, even small from time to time.
Appreciate the things that she’s doing for me.
Do the things she asks me.
Listen.
Say nice things to her.
Don’t argue.
The list is long. But I think what I came up with is good. I just need to do more of these things.
I have to start living my life! Every day should be unique. Every day I should just do something!