My Learning Log

Tag: marta

  • outburst

    There are outbursts that my wife has that I don’t know how to deal with.Yesterday was such a one. Fabian wanted to read on the couch. When she was trying to turn on the tv, he asked her that to turn it off so he can read. Nope. She insisted. I interfered. I asked her to turn it off. She started to get animated, raising her voice. Eventually, when she went downstairs, I turned it off. That made her even more upset. Eventually things got really started to get out of control. Everybody was screaming, kids were crying, I couldn’t take it. I left for a few minutes.

    For what?

    Why do we need that?

    I threatened that there will be penalty for this. For now, it’s Cuba. I don’t really want to go after what happened. I’ll have to think some more about it. It’s possible that this is her last chance and one more like that, I will not go.

  • marta is the best planner

    We had a very good birthday party yesterday. My wife is amazing planning, preparing, and making stuff for birthday. She is unreal. I love how she makes her stuff. And also how stuff comes out. Amazing. She really is. First time baking an apple cake? No problem! Came out almost perfect! First time this, first time that, no problem! 

    I am not a planner. No. Not one bit. There is nothing in me that can make that happen. I just have trouble organizing anything. Not sure why. I wished I had those skills. It’s just not happening. But it’s good to have a counterpart like that. She is the social side of me that I don’t have. Really. Without her, my life would be so boring. I don’t know how I would live. I really don’t.

  • list do zony

    Kochana Martusiu,

    Piszę ten list do Ciebie z jednego powodu…

    Innym może się wydaje że u nas jest tak różowo, że jest tak dobrze. Na zewnątrz może i to tak wygląda. A czy tak jest?

    Podoba mi się u Ciebie wiele rzeczy. Ty jesteś tym kim ja chciałbym być! To masz umiejętności których ja nigdy nie miałem i nigdy nie będę miał. Chociażby sposób twojego kumunikowania się, twoje socjalne umiejętności. Ja Ci tego zazdroszczę, a z drugiej strony cieszę się że mam kogoś takiego.

    Podoba mi się twoja opieka nad naszymi dziećmi. Ja nigdy czegoś takiego nie widziałem i się nie spodziewałem. Ta miłość. Ta troska. Ta wilcza opieka. To jest coś naprawdę fajnego.

    Podoba mi się też że zaczynasz w niektórych aspektach zmieniać swoje podejście. Nie powinniśmy podnosić głosu na nasze dzieci. Tak, to jest trudne w różnych chwilach. Ale wiem że nie tędy droga. Czy nie chcemy wychowywać dzieci w spokoju, miłości… a nie wrzasku i wykrzykiwaniu. Nad tym musimy popracować. To musimy udoskonalać.

    I zauważam twoją otwartość na zmiany. To mi się podoba.

    Zauważam też inne podejście do mnie. Ja wiem że próbowanie zmienić kogoś na siłę nie pracuje. Dlatego przestałem to robić. Ja i Ty możemy zmienić się tylko sami. I tyko wtedy jak tego chcemy. Droga przez wyzywanie, krzyki, walki nie prowadzi do większej miłości.

    Napisałem ten list z jednego powodu: Kocham Cię! I mogę powiedzieć że ta miłość się pogłębia: jest największa odkąd moją Martusię poznałem. Dajesz mi wiele powodów do dumy, dziękuję Ci za to.

    -Staś

  • letter to my wife

    I need to write a letter to my wife. Not only that, I need to send it tomorrow morning so it gets to her on a Saturday. I want to make these types of surprises to show her that I love her. Because I do. Issues that arise from time to time. 

    What am I going to write in this letter? Not sure yet. Something to surprise her. I am curious to see her reaction. But I have to write it tomorrow morning!

  • spending on credit

    My wife and credit cards. She just would spend all that she has. She has no limit. It’s concerning. That’s why she has to use cache. Cache all the time. Otherwise, it’s not going to work. But when she runs out, she asks for my card. That’s definetely not good. Because she’s asking, asking and gets it. It’s not that she can say… hmm, I can’t spend because I don’t have. The bottom line, she cannot spend.

    I have to find a solution. Sometimes when she doesn’t have a card… she would use a check. Oh, cmon…

    I don’t really know what the issue is… But I think I know the solution… I am going to increase the amount of money to something like $250 or $300 per week. And no more. Really. No more credit. Period. No checks. Period. If she runs out, tough luck. No more. Or $10 for a sandwich or something.

    I don’t know any other way. I know that giving her the card just makes things worse.;

  • party

    We had a great party on Saturday. Really. I know I’m not objective, but it was one of the best Christening parties I’ve been to. And a lot of people were saying that when they were leaving. Even my mom said that the DJ got everyone involved. That the cake was really really good. That the Cocktail Hour was really good. My uncle said that it’s worth paying $20 more per person.

    I think so too. Party at The Bethwood is worth it. Next time I am going to try to get the Seville. I think that’s the best room they have. Really nice. The one we had, Chestnut, was not bad, either. So all in all, it was as we had imagined or dreamed of.

    My wife really deserves an award for this. She pretty much setup everything. Excellent job by her.

    And Victor was great. My son Fabian needs to be held on a closer leash. He really is causing us more and more trouble. Not sure if that’s really him or if it’s the age, but it cannot continue. I need to find ways and mostly my wife in Poland to make him better. Otherwise, it’s just going to be difficult for us. And for him in the future.

  • marty urodziny

    Myslalem ostatnio o Tobie…
    Ja nie chce zyc w ciaglych problemach!
    I pomyslalem o sobie…
    Nie chce miec zlego uczucia w wspomnieniach…
    Bo ja CIE KOCHAM… Ty masz cos w sobie!
    I tylko to jest najwazniejsze…
    I w moim zyciu najwspanialsze!